"A person usually has two reasons for doing something: a good reason and the real reason." (Thomas Carlyle)
"No one can arrive from being talented alone. God gives talent; work transforms talent into genius." (Anna Pavlova, Russian ballet dancer)
"The future is already here – it's just not evenly distributed." (William Gibson)
You don't say, 'this is where I'll always be.' You say, 'this is where I am now.' (David Kahn)
“A plan relieves you of the torment of choice.” (Saul Bellow)
"No matter how far you have gone on a wrong road, turn back." (Turkish Proverb)
"Wise men learn more from fools than fools from the wise." (Cato the Elder, Roman statesman)
"The best way to have a good idea is to have a lot of ideas." (Linus Pauling)
"Concentrate on what you do have, not on what you don’t." (John Wooden)
"Wealth, like health, is at the expense of nobody." (Plato Valaskakis)
"Habits start out as cobwebs and grow to be cables."
(Spanish proverb)
"Victory has a thousand fathers, but defeat is an orphan."
(John F. Kennedy)
"Wisdom is the art of knowing what to overlook."
(William James)
"We are always getting ready to live, but never living."
(Ralph Waldo Emerson)
"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."
(Oscar Wilde)
"Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts."
(Albert Einstein)
"People may not remember what you said or what you did, but people will always remember how you made them feel."
(Maya Angelou)
"You want to be considered the only ones who do what you do."
(Jerry Garcia)
"As we know, there are known knowns. There are things we know we know. We also know there are known unknowns. That is to say, we know they're some things we do not know. But there're also unknown unknowns; the ones we don't know we don't know."
(Donald Rumsfeld)
"You have the watches, we have the time."
(Afghan Proverb)
"I praise loudly. I blame softly."
(Catherine the Great)
“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is Enlightenment.”
(Lao Tzu)
“It is better to be young in your failures than old in your successes.”
(Flannery O'Connor)
"Solitude is a good place to visit but a poor play to stay."
(Josh Billings)
"Laughter is the shortest distance between two people."
(Victor Borge)
"A private who loses a rifle suffers far greater consequences than a general who loses a war.”
(Lt. Col Paul Yingling, US Army)
"Women have sex in order to talk, and men talk in order to have sex."
(Anonymous)
"A mind once stretched by a new idea can never return to its original dimensions."
(Oliver Wendell Holmes)
"There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all."
(Peter Drucker)
"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. But the second best time is today."
(Chinese Proverb)
"Never answer the question that is asked of you. Answer the question that you wish had been asked."
(Robert S. McNamara)
"It's easier to stay out of trouble than to get out of trouble."
(Warren Buffett)
"Vision is not enough; it must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up to the step; we must step up the stairs."
(Vaclav Havel)
"I cursed the fact that I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet."
(Persian Proverb)
"Common sense is anything but common."
(Voltaire)
"You can accomplish anything in life, provided that you do not mind who gets the credit."
(Harry Truman)
"The last 1 percent most people keep in reserve is the extra percent champions have the courage to burn."
(Chris Carmichael)
"If I has asked my customers what they wanted, they'd have said a faster horse."
(Henry Ford)
"A goal without a plan is just a wish."
(Antoine de Saint-Exupéry)
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."
(Ralph Waldo Emerson)
"Discipline is doing what you don't want to do when you don't want to do it."
"Hurry when you have time, so you'll have time when you are in a hurry."
(Dutch Proverb)
"Talent hits a target no one else can hit; genius hits a target no one else can see."
(Arthur Schopenhauer)
"One does not accumulate but eliminate. It is not daily increase but daily decrease. The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity."
(Bruce Lee)
"The goal is not to bend or change ourselves so we fit the norm; the goal is to find the group in which we are the norm."
(Simon Sinek)
"Action expresses priorities." (Mohandas Gandhi)
Those who say 'yes' are rewarded by the adventures they have. Those who say 'no' are rewarded by the safety they attain." (Keith Johnstone)
Over the long term, you are more likely to fool yourself than others (Nassim Nicholas Taleb)
"By working faithfully eight hours a day, you may eventually get to be a boss and work twelve hours a day."
(Robert Frost)
"The factory of the future will have only two employees, a man and a dog. The man will be there to feed the dog. The dog will be there to keep the man from touching the equipment.
(Warren Bennis)
"I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow."
(Woodrow Wilson)
"The future is here. It's just not widely distributed yet."
(William Gibson)
"Many a false step was made by standing still."
(Chinese Proverb)
"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect."
(Mark Twain)
"Perfection is not when there is no more to add, but no more take away."
(Antoine de Saint-Exupery)
"You can't hold a man down without staying down with him."
(Booker T. Washington)
"Mishaps are like knives, that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or by the handle."
(James Russell Lowell)
"Vision is the art of seeing things invisible."
(Jonathan Swift)
"Beauty without grace is the hook without the bait."
(Emerson)
"What I like in a good author is not what he says, but what he whispers."
(Logan Pearsall Smith)
"The sole substitute for an experience which we have not ourselves lived through is art and literature."
(Alexander Solzhenitsyn)
"Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration."
(Thomas Edison)
"My country is the world and my religion is to do good."
(Thomas Paine)
"Human felicity is produced not so much by great pieces of good fortune that seldom hapen, as by little advantages that occur every day."
(Benjamin Franklin)
"The basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge while an ordinary man takes everything either as a blessing or a curse."
(Carlos Castaneda)
"Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted."
(Albert Einstein)
"Throw your heart over the fence and the rest will follow."
(Norman Vincent Peale)
"The palest ink is clearer than the fondest memory."
(Chinese Proverb)
"Think like a man of action, act like a man of thought."
(Henri Bergson)
"History doesn't repeat itself, but sometimes it rhymes."
(Mark Twain)
"We do not remember days; we remember moments."
(Cesare Pavese)
"The only way to have a friend is to be one."
(Emerson)
"The only way around is through."
(Robert Frost)
"Mountaintops inspire leaders but valleys mature them."
(Winston Churchill)
"Friendships are like money - easier made then kept."
(Samuel Butler)
"Black words on a white page are the soul laid bare."
(Guy de Maupassant)
"A man is wealthy in proportion to the things he can do without."
(Epicurus)
"Mistakes are the portals of discovery."
(James Joyce)
"Happiness is wanting what you have, not getting what you want."
(Sheryl Crow)
"Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes."
(Oscar Wilde)
"Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own thoughts, unguarded. But once mastered, no one can help you as much."
(Buddha)
"You understand life backward but you live life forward."
(Soren Kierkegaard)
"Love decreases when it ceases to increase."
(Chateaubriand)
"I quote others only the better to express myself."
(Montaigne)
"Be quick .. but don't hurry."
(John Wooden)
"Pain is just weakness leaving the body."
(Nike Slogan)
Happiness = Performance - Expectations
"It is never too late to be what you might have been."
(George Eliot)
"Always make new mistakes."
(Esther Dyson)
"People more often need to be reminded than informed."
(Samuel Butler)
"Old people are fond of giving good advice; it consoles them for no longer being capable of setting a bad example." (La Rochefoucauld)
"History doesn't repeat itself, but sometimes it rhymes." (Mark Twain)
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit."
(Aristotle)
"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift."
(Eleanor Roosevelt)
"We do not remember days ... we remember moments."
(Cesare Pavese)
The Great Disruption
What the global economy, Blockbuster, going solo, hook-up culture, asynchronous intimacy, the Apple Maps app and ‘Homeland’ all have in common
We live in a world of broken models, columnist Robert Samuelson noted recently in The Washington Post. In his essay, Samuelson speculated that “to understand why world leaders can’t easily fix the sputtering global economy, you have to realize that the economic models on which the United States, Europe and China relied are collapsing.”
Samuelson confined his analysis to macroeconomics, but he's actually on to something. We find ourselves in a world turned upside down. The Greatest Generation had to survive the Great Depression; our generation, I believe, is being asked to navigate (rather than survive) the Great Disruption.
Let me explain. It's now conventional wisdom that companies from Blockbuster (RIP) to Borders (RIP) have seen their traditional business models disrupted. In the case of the former, their video stores were challenged by the advent of DVDs by mail, courtesy of Netflix. In the case of the latter, the transition from retail to e-commerce (and, soon, e-books) pioneered by Amazon hastened Borders’ demise. Even 'new' companies like BlackBerry (RIP soon?) are seeing their once mighty technological advantages being leapfrogged in the space of months, not years. It’s often said that “a week is a lifetime in politics.” This is increasingly true about business. For almost every company, the world as they knew it no longer exists.
But what if that described the rest of “life”, as well? What if our 'living models' are being disrupted today as much as business models have been? This is exactly what's happening, only it may not be as obvious.
From the way we live, date, mate and marry, traditional pillars of society are being transformed.
Taken together, it seems that we’re living through a revolution just slow enough to slip by almost unnoticed, but significant enough to upend our world.
Did you know that for the first time ever, a majority of Americans (51%) today are single? How about that 1 in 3 of Americans live alone? That number, by the way, rises to half the population in cities like Washington, DC and Manhattan. It’s not just that people are increasingly “going solo” or are putting off getting married; in some cases they are postponing that milestone - forever. Holy matrimony is not happening as often as it used to. When weddings do occur, they’re no longer necessarily between a man and a woman ( that's a good thing), and the unions are not lasting as long as they used to (that’s a bad thing).
Even the road to marriages and baby carriages has changed. These days, finding that partner - let alone a future husband or wife - is more complicated than ever before. Courtship, if it does exist, is far removed from the Ritchie Cunningham era of dates, dances, making out and going out.
Today, young people are txting instead of talking, sexting instead of playing spin the bottle, surfing internet porn instead of sneaking peeks at Playboy magazines.
This is all part of Hookup Culture. But when did it become A-OK for girls to announce that they were DTF? We live in a brave new world of what I call ‘asynchronous intimacy’. People used to get know each other, then have sex. Today, it’s not an exaggeration to say that they have sex, and then get to know each other (if at all).
Time-honored social norms have been abandoned. Some of this is progress, to be sure; but even desirable advances represent a double-edged sword. For instance, there are more women than men attending college now, and women are increasingly getting ahead in the classroom, the boardroom and the living room. The flip side is that soon it will be difficult for a university degree-holding female to find a similarly-educated boyfriend, or a husband who earns as much as she does.
There are what economists call externalities to all of these developments - broader social costs that we rarely factor in when contemplating the full impact of such changes.
More people living alone means greater self-fulfillment, but probably an increased risk of social isolation as well. The notion of what constitutes a couple is simultaneously being defined down (hook-ups and “friends with benefits”) as well as more expansively (same-sex unions, common law partnerships). Girls feel more free to hook up, but it’s eliminated the requirement for guys to court and emotionally connect with them first. Women are moving up in the world, but they’re going to be forced to “date down”.
More generally, people don't have the benefit of "social GPS" anymore. They don't know where they are, they don’t know where they stand, and they don’t have directions to where they’re going. It’s as if all of us are iPhones 5s, and we just downloaded the terrible Apple Maps App: the Statue of Liberty simply isn’t where it’s supposed to be.
I'm a student of history. When it comes to change, I believe that much of what we say is du jamais vu has, in fact, been seen before. Globalization is one such ‘new’ development … that's been happening since Jean-Baptiste Colbert (no relation to Stephen) and the emergence of 17th century mercantilism. But what is new is the pace of change. Cars replaced horses over multiple decades; TV overtook radio in 15 years; Facebook went from a way for a nerd to meet girls to a 100 billion dollar company (at its IPO, at least) with one billion users in just 7.
How much have things changed in those last 7 years?
As Thomas Friedman remarked, in 2005 "when I wrote The World is Flat, Skype was a typo, Twitter was a sound, 4G was a parking spot." Today’s ascendant generation - the Millennials - has never known a world without YouTube, PVRs or iPhones.
Not only is every aspect of life getting fstr, the cycle times are getting shorter. We have less time to adjust to these deep and wide changes in society, and they're coming at us like a Twitter feed.
This is not a stable state, nor an end one necessarily. The old rules are out of date, but new ones haven’t been set yet. So what can we do in the face of this Great Disruption? First, grab tight and hold on. Then, just as businesses had to reinvent themselves to adapt to new economic models, we need to rebuild our social models to adjust to the new realities.
On one level, we have to become comfortable being uncomfortable.
We have to make peace with being a little lost. But we also have to make sense of this emerging landscape, and develop new (or old) ways to navigate it for the long term. This might mean moving forward, by redefining how society looks at single people and the state regards civil unions. It might also require, however, looking backward - and returning to a bygone era where people met, dated and mated in that order.
We can’t be trapped by the tyranny of “progress”, nor by the orthodoxy of the past. Perhaps most importantly, we can’t simply sit still. “Life” is being disrupted before our eyes, and all of us, individually and collectively, risk the fates of Blockbuster and Borders - of being left behind.
I’m not arguing for a return to a “Happy Days” world, or an acceptance of a “Girls” one for that matter, either. But I do think that we need to snap back to a more thought-out and sustainable posture vis a vis this Great Disruption. My new favorite TV show is “Homeland”. It’s a taut psychological thriller that spins dark webs of deceit amid double-clutch plot twists and revelations. The two central characters - CIA agent Carrie Matheson and ex-POW and possible Manchurian Candidate Nicholas Brody - live in a lie-within-a-lie world. The show’s central appeal is the thoroughly disorienting sensation of not knowing what is real, who is the good character and the bad, and how both Carrie and Brody periodically lose and regain control of their lives.
In a sense, we all now live in a “Homeland” world - not one in which a Congressman may be a Muslim mole, or the CIA agent pursuing him may be mad - but one where good and bad, progress and regress, control and chaos all sit side by side.
Welcome to the Great Disruption.
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